My grandson Nic watched Sergei singing “Green Smoothie Hustla” on YouTube and asked if he could also sing something in a video clip. We said, “Yes!” Nic picked a song he likes. Valya has put together this 2-minute video. Enjoy!
Whenever spending time with my two grandchildren, I try to avoid using the following two questions:
1 – How was school?
2 – What do you want to be when you grow up?
I have noticed that these two questions are asked most often, and that children automatically give standard answers without thinking. Also I have noticed that most children have a hard time learning through listening. At the same time, they learn well through deep conversations. So, every time we drive in the car, or walk from a class, I try to engage my grandkids into a meaningful conversation. I believe that such dialogues develop their ability to observe, which is the path to wisdom.
Today my grandson Nic and I had an interesting conversation when we were driving from his music lesson. I would like to share it with you. Maybe you can send me some of your own meaningful conversations?
Nic: How come my teacher is teaching me so well?
Victoria: What do you mean?
N: Anne explains everything to me; when I make mistakes, she doesn’t yell at me. And my lessons go so fast that I don’t even notice how my class is over.
V: I think your teacher is teaching you so well because she has integrity.
N: What is that?
V: Integrity is a quality when a person is unable to do something bad.
For example, you cannot hit a dog with the stick.
N: No I can’t.
V: What if I will offer you $10 and ask you to hit the dog with a big stick?
N: No I can’t do it even for $10 either.
V: What if somebody will offer you $1000 to hit the dog with a big stick, would you do it?
N: (Nic is thinking.) Maybe I could slowly touch the dog with a stick for a $1000?
V: The dogs are afraid of sticks. When someone approaches a dog with a stick in his hand, the dog becomes scared.
N: Then how come the dogs like to chase sticks?
V: Those sticks are small and the owner throws the branch away from the dog, not at the dog.
N: Ah, I see. How do people get integrity?
V: I think we are all born with integrity but then later we often lose it.
N: How come?
V: What do you think?
N: I don’t know.
V: What makes a boy to hit the dog with a stick?
N: He is a bad boy?
V: Keep thinking. Imagine yourself being that boy.
N: Maybe he forgot how the dog feels? Maybe he is angry?
V: Yes, Nic, this is my observation also, when people become angry they lose their integrity.
N: Sometimes I get angry with my sister.
V: Tell me, what would you prefer, to live in the world full of angry people, or full of people with integrity?
N: People with integrity.
V: That would be nice, wouldn’t it?
N: Yeah. And the dogs will be happy too.